Date: 2018-02-12 05:27
I d also say I think the number of people who are so physically and/or personally unappealing that they have no hope of finding a romantic partner without changing everything about themselves is very very small. I think a lot of people start assuming they re one of that number without trying most of the many other strategies that exist to improve their dating life, the many less-massive changes that can improve their situation, because assuming they just are entirely unappealing because that s the way they are is easier than doing the work to see if that s really true.
And again: please note that somehow the human species continues and yet we re not all descended from hyperattractive, rich people.
I ve been there. When that happens to me, I generally try to take a break from dating until it starts to seem a little more exciting again. I m actually considering going on one again soon. It seems like nothing ever works out very well when I ve internalized a bunch of frustration, presumably because I tend to give off bad vibes in ways I don t notice.
It doesn t stand up to logical scrutiny, anyway. Your body produces sperm *to be let go*. That is it s primary function and destiny. It doesn t make sense for the release of sperm to cause you serious problems.
This apparently unending stream of reinforcement will only serves to perpetuate a vicious cycle your self-limiting beliefs cause you to overlook evidence to the contrary, thus reinforcing the belief which, in turn, continues to make it impossible to see the truth. Your negative attitude will seep into everything you do it will affect your attitude, your self-image, even your posture all of which will serve to work against you.
And then before you know it you 8767 ll realize you 8767 re not being rejected the way you used to be. In fact, you 8767 re starting to get more phone-numbers and then more dates than you thought you ever would a year ago, even a mont h ago. You won 8767 t be able to believe how frustrated you were, at how impossible it all seemed and how natural it all seems now.
Unrequited Love sucks. It has happened to me and it is never fun. But, since it is not going to happen with this woman, I recommend working really hard to get over her because you are not doing yourself any favors by continuing to pine for her.
If you were chatting with someone online and didn t want to give it out, how about responding with something informative but not too specific like it s a pretty small town in southern France, or big city in the Midwest. You could follow that up with a little about what it s like, just a short sentence to give the other person something to hang onto.
Dating I dunno. It seems like a magical fantasyland where everyone else has fun at it, and if I don t try to do it sometime soon I ll have completely missed my shot at it. But then there s all these pre-reqs to be successful at it that I plainly either don t have or never thought of as important before, which means that not only is my shot winding down, I m way behind the starting line. Or that s at least what it feels like.